Thursday, November 06, 2008

Grow The Positive

Life will throw at you it's best and its worst, both the good and the bad. It yields moments of weakness and periods of strength, people who are ignorant and those who are very perceptive. Joy is only maintained by defeating the negative by acknowledging the positive and growing its presence in this world.

Two months ago today, Naveen and I were married, but for the majority of those two months we have been apart. I just got home now around 9pm from a productive but emotionally difficult day at work. With all that in mind as I walked home tonight, I began to develop the thoughts that made up what I wrote at the beginning of this post, and I'm beginning to once again feel armed with the courage to persevere through my recent anxiety and keep my focus. I have to decide to remember why I am here, what changes I desire, and what I can do to help the situation. I've been praying for a lot of change on a lot of levels, and I think that my hopes are reasonable and attainable so long as I don't allow myself to sink into despair about why things just aren't magically the way I had always thought they would be at this time in my life. Because of the way things are right now, it's easy to forget how much work it took to get here, and how many people have helped me and encouraged me along the way. But as I mentioned before, I think the only way to achieve a better mentality and better results is to acknowledge the positive and do what I can to encourage others and thank them for being who they are, and as for myself, continue to reach for solutions.

Thanks and all my love to my parents, my sister, and all my extended family and in-laws and very special friends who have taught me well and supported me through all my endeavors. If you're reading this, I'm sure you are one of those people, and you mean a lot to me. And as for Naveen, who embodies all these things, and completes my existence on this earth, I love you and I know there is light just around the corner for both of us, if we just keep trying. Thanks again, all, and best wishes till next time.


Laura "Sko" said...

Joanna Leathers (Indiana) wrote
at 10:07pm yesterday:

Have you decided yet whether you're going to stay out East after the end of the year or if you'll be moving back to Chicago? How many more weeks are there until you're done out there?

Response To Joanna: While no decision lately has felt truly official, it seems that I am very valued by my company and I really love working out here. The problem lies with whether or not we can get Naveen a job out here, and we're hoping that will happen in the coming months. For the moment, it does not appear that I'll be going back to Chicago any time soon.

Laura "Sko" said...

Sarah 'Telley' Martin (IUPUI) wrote
at 10:40pm yesterday:

I know how hard it is to be apart from your husband. It takes a lot of strength and I know you have it in you. Just keep your eye on the goal and know that God has had this planned all along, and he wouldn't have put you two in this position if he didn't think you could handle it. I kept telling myself that when AJ and I went through his long months of traveling this past spring and summer. Positive thinking does wonders!! It will all be worth it in the end....I hope that's not very far away for you guys :) Do you have any idea when you might be able to work from Chicago?
P.S. Happy two-month anniversary :)

Response To Sarah: Thank you as always for your loving and faithful support. I hope we're almost there too. I've thought about that very idea that we wouldn't be in this position if we absolutely couldn't handle it. A few times I've really been on the fence about whether or not I could handle it, but apparently we're doing it and trying to find a way to get closer together again. Who knows, maybe by month #3 we'll have a better idea about what our future holds.

Laura "Sko" said...

Christopher Street wrote
at 11:04pm yesterday:

I know how you feel, as you know, we are going through the same thing. You are awesome and strong! You are never truly alone. Our prayers are with you both :)

Response To Chris: Thanks, and I know I'm definitely not the only one to deal with a long-distance relationship. We've been through this before, which is why we figured we could do it again. What we didn't count on is how much more difficult it would be since we were just married and then had to be apart. I think there's some shock value to it all that we still haven't adjuste to. But thank you for your prayers - I think we'll get through this if we just figure out a plan and stick to it. ;)

Thanks again, everyone. You are all truly wonderful people.

Laura "Sko" said...

Tom Skowronski (Fort Wayne) wrote at 12:30am today:
Laura, I recommend to myself and others: visualize where you want to be, whether it's in the next 30 seconds, days, weeks, months, or years.
Sorry I don't check your blog more often, so special thanks for sending this. Very well done, inspirational, and most meaningful in many ways.
Love, Dad

Response to Dad: I love you too, and yes, visualization helps. For me lately, it takes more though - like extending myself to be more outwardly positive about things - and a good night's sleep has been even more helpful today! Love you.